Blogging 100 days of Going Sober

I blogged most of them, the idea was simple: Invest the same energy into my recovery that I had been dedicating to my addiction. It was more than blogging. Sober Tony was always talking trash on Twitter about the real work of recovery: working the 12 steps with my sponsor learning from AA meetings getting … Continue reading Blogging 100 days of Going Sober


Doubt only surrenders to experience

  I saw this quote today on Seth's blog and it reminded me of my step 2 & 3 experience. Drink enough water and you will cease to be thirsty. And yet, a doubting person can be drowning in facts, but facts won't change a mind that doesn't want to be changed. More facts don't counter more … Continue reading Doubt only surrenders to experience

The stigma used to start with me – now I want to help end it

Before I came out about my alcoholism, I was terrified to be discovered. I literally had drunken nightmares about friends doing "an intervention" on me. The shame pushed me into a corner, eventually I ran away to Haiti rather than admitting I had a problem. But I'm not just a victim of mental health stigma, … Continue reading The stigma used to start with me – now I want to help end it

How NOT to Stay Sober

Finding a Sober Miracle


From a wealth of experience, some even remembered, I would like to start an un-checklist of things to avoid.

It just so happens I am an expert on how NOT to stay sober. Here are some pitfalls that played out over and over again in my own life. Feel free to add your own.

Don’t do these things! (An un-check list)

Play the victim.Even though you are the victim of a devastatingly addictive substance, playing the victim keeps you stuck. Don’t allow your mind to continually revisit the past, especially knowing that your brain is cleverly weeding out the shitty and emphasizing the sublime, so that it can once again turn you into its shady dealer.

You are not helpless. You are not defeated. You are still alive, and you can still win this battle.

Bathe in guilt. There is an allure to guilt. Sometimes it feels like you…

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